WEBINAR · JULY 25, 2026 · 7:00 PM CT

The Rabbit Hole Roadmap

A live webinar for Cognitively Complicated Couples, Cofounders, and Care Givers who keep ending up in the same conversation.

Ninety minutes to draw your first window together. The one where the two of you can finally see what you are each actually talking about — and what neither of you can see yet.

FREE TO ATTEND · COHORT ENROLLMENT OPENS LIVE

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THE LOOP YOU ALREADY KNOW

The conversation you keep ending up in

You start the conversation at the kitchen counter. One of you wants to talk about Saturday. The other one is already five turns ahead and is talking about whether Saturday means the same thing it did last spring. By the time the conversation lands somewhere, neither of you remembers what Saturday was originally about, and one of you is upstairs.

The board meeting is going long. Your cofounder thinks you are stalling on a hire. You think they are rushing to fill a role neither of you has actually defined. You both leave the call agreeing on a date, neither of you agreeing on what the role is, and you both spend the weekend wondering whether the company has a problem or whether the two of you do.

Your sister thinks Mom needs more help. You think Mom needs different help. Neither of you is wrong. Neither of you can hear the other one's reason because you are each defending the version of Mom you grew up with — not the one in front of you now.

This is the rabbit hole. It is recursive by design. The Rabbit Hole Roadmap is the thing that lets you walk through it together instead of separately.

WHAT THIS IS NOT REPLACING

Why the standard tools don't reach it

Couples therapy works. So do the field's best-known communication frameworks — Nonviolent Communication, the Gottman Method, Imago, Internal Family Systems, the rest. They have helped many millions of pairs hear each other better. They are not the wrong tools. They are tools built for a different shape of conversation than the one you are having.

What they do not reach is the moment when two people are using the same word to mean two different things — and neither of them knows it yet. The moment when one partner is processing a gestalt and the other is processing a sequence. The moment when the referent of "it" is unstable, and the conversation runs in circles not because anyone is being difficult, but because there is nothing for the words to point at.

That is the gap the Rabbit Hole Roadmap was built to fill.

THE FRAMEWORK

The Bird Brain Johari Window

Four ways of seeing. Four birds. One conversation.

Known to Self

Not Known to Self

Known to Others

Open · Known

Equanimous Eagle

What is visible and available to us both at this moment?

The Equanimous Eagle is the part of the conversation where you and your partner are both, demonstrably, looking at the same thing. You can name it. They can name it. You agree on what it is. This is the smallest quadrant in most arguments. It is also the only ground you can build on.

T · Tackle the Topic

Blind Spot

Percipient Parrot

What if we could see the view from our blind spot?

The Percipient Parrot is the part the other person sees that you don't. They are not making it up. They are not exaggerating. They are seeing something you cannot see because you are inside it. Resolving the referent means asking, "When you said the word I just heard you say — what were you pointing at?" and listening to the answer instead of defending the word.

R · Resolve the Referent

Not Known to Others

Hidden

Ontological Owl

What I can see now that I cannot explain yet.

The Ontological Owl is what you know but have not said — the inkling, the held-back observation, the thing you noticed three weeks ago and never quite figured out how to bring up. Interrogating your inklings is the work of letting the owl out without weaponizing it. The conversation cannot resolve what is still inside your head.

I · Interrogate Your Inklings

Unknown

Hypercognitive Hummingbird

What should we do next that will guide us? Living the Dream in the Meantime.

The Hypercognitive Hummingbird is the part neither of you can see yet. The future move. The next right step. Practicing Pragmatic Positivity is the discipline of being willing to act on the part of the picture you do have, while you keep drawing the rest of it together.

P · Practice Pragmatic Positivity

Vision Quest LTD teaches Cognitively Complicated Couples,
Cofounders, and Care Givers how to draw their window together.

THE PROTOCOL

TRIP — the four moves

Four letters. Four moves. One pair, two pens, one window.

T

Tackle the Topic

Name the thing you are actually here to talk about — out loud, before the conversation gets to it.

It gives both of you a target. The conversation can go in circles around the target without losing the target.

R

Resolve the Referent

When you and your partner use the same word, check whether you mean the same thing by it.

It ends the loop where two people are arguing about the word instead of the thing the word was supposed to point at.

I

Interrogate Your Inklings

Say the thing you noticed but haven't said yet.

It moves what was hidden into the room, where it can actually be looked at by both of you.

P

Practice Pragmatic Positivity

Choose the next right move based on the part of the picture you can see, not the part you can't.

It lets the conversation produce a decision instead of producing more conversation.

THE NINETY MINUTES

What we are actually doing in the room together

1

The Setup12 MIN

Why the same conversation keeps coming back, named in three sentences. You will recognize it. So will the person you came with.

2

Drawing Your First Window Together18 MIN

The exercise that gets both of you on the same page about what is open, what is blind, what is hidden, what is unknown right now. You leave with an actual drawn window, not a description of one.

3

The Four Birds in Two-Person Form20 MIN

Each of the four quadrants, with a live example of how it shows up in a Cognitively Complicated Couple, a Cofounder pair, and a Care Givers pair. You will see your own conversation in at least one of them.

4

TRIP, Demonstrated15 MIN

The four-letter protocol run on a real example, in real time. Not a slide. The actual moves, with the actual hesitations.

5

The Question You Came With15 MIN

Live Q&A. Bring the conversation that keeps showing up in your house, your company, or your family. We will run it through the window in front of you.

6

The Door to the Cohort10 MIN

What stays behind for everyone on the waitlist. What opens for the cohort. No pressure. No countdown timer. Just the door and what is on the other side of it.

BRING YOUR OTHER PERSON

Who do you want to be there with?

The window only works if there are two of you holding the pen.

Add the email of the person you would attend with — your partner, your cofounder, your sibling, the other parent — and we will send them their own invitation in their own inbox.

If they say no, the seat is still yours. If they say yes, you arrive with the conversation already in motion.

WHAT THE WEBINAR OPENS

The cohort

The webinar is the door. The cohort is the room.

Format

[TO SET: cohort length, meeting cadence, group size cap, start date]

What is included

Live cohort sessions with you and your other person, held in a small group of pairs working the same protocol on the same week. Access to the Bird Brain Vault — the working library of every Le Mot Juste, every Auntie Dictionary entry, every framework piece. The Get to No University materials, including the Foolproof Formula for Failing Fabulously and the Stack Your STIQS method. The Say Uncle Field Guide, written for the partner who is not in the room with you yet — so they have something to read on their own time, in their own voice, without you having to translate.

What it is not

It is not therapy. It is not coaching-as-advice-giving. It is not a course you watch alone in a tab you keep meaning to come back to. It is a small cohort of pairs, working a shared protocol, with the framework's author in the room.

Price

[TO SET: price, sliding scale availability, payment plan terms]

WHO BUILT THIS

About Paige

Hi. I am Paige. I built this framework because the off-the-shelf one did not fit me, did not fit my marriage, and did not fit the conversations I kept ending up in.

I am twice exceptional, hyperlexithymic, and a gestalt processor. I have spent my adult life translating the inside of my own head for people who love me and who could not, until someone built them a translator, hear the thing I was actually saying. The Bird Brain Johari Window, the TRIP protocol, the it/It/IT system — these are the translators. I built them for me first. They turn out to work for everyone in a Cognitively Complicated pair.

The longer version of all of this is the book. It is called Through the Hummingbird's Eye: A Neurosparkle Manifesto. You can read it on Amazon. You can also wait, come to the webinar, and decide whether you want the longer version after.

Read the book on Amazon →

THE QUESTIONS YOU ARE ABOUT TO ASK

FAQ

My partner won't come. Should I sign up alone?

Yes. The webinar gives you the framework and the protocol whether or not the other person is in the room. The cohort is built for pairs, but the waitlist is built for individuals. You can come to the webinar alone, decide whether you want the cohort, and then decide whether you can bring your partner into it.

We've done couples therapy. How is this different?

Therapy holds the space; this teaches the protocol. Most cohort participants are also in therapy or have been. The two work together. This is not a replacement for what your therapist does. It is a tool you bring with you into the next session.

Is this for romantic partnerships only?

No. The framework was built for any two-person conundrumship — Cognitively Complicated Couples, Cofounders, and Care Givers. The vignettes you will see in the webinar cover all three. If you and one other person are in a recurring conversation that needs a shared protocol, this is for you.

What if we are not neurodivergent — does this still apply?

Yes. The framework was built from a neurodivergent vantage, and it works for any two people whose conversational defaults do not naturally line up. You do not need a diagnosis to find yourselves in a rabbit hole.

How much does the cohort cost?

[TO SET: price, sliding scale, payment plan. Suggested template: "The cohort is $X. A sliding scale is available — write to ask@visionquest.ltd if cost is the only thing standing between you and the room."]

What if we need to drop out partway through?

You keep your access to the materials. The refund window is the first two weeks. After that, your seat stays yours through the end of the cohort even if your circumstances change.

THE DOOR STAYS OPEN

If the cohort isn't right yet, the waitlist still is.

The waitlist gets you the webinar. It also gets you the Friday Vision Quest LTD newsletter, and the Living the Dream in the Meantime field notes — short, useable observations from the work of running your own conversation.

Join the waitlist. Bring whoever else is in the conversation. Decide everything else later.

If you want to stay in orbit without committing to anything,

the four other Le Mot Juste editions are also open to you.

Each one is a different door into the same building.

Monday · Le Mot Juste Tuesday · for Neurosparklers Wednesday · Say Uncle Field Guide Thursday · Hello Hummingbird Saturday · Ask Auntie Paige