Stop apologizing for how your mind works.
Start naming what you have always known but never had words for...until now.
A weekly publication for Neurosparklers and the Nearlynormies who love us but can't understand how we see it/It/IT.
Six daily lenses. One word per week. No spam, ever.
Neurosparklers have been making shit happen for so long that we make it/It/IT look easy. Nearlynormies don’t hear how we see IT/It/it so they shrug and say
“Oh well, it is what it is.”
Gen X women came of age before there were words for how our brains worked. The diagnostic vocabulary that now sorts neurodivergent from neurotypical was not in the lexicon yet.
What would now classify us as twice exceptional was just the stack of STIQS we used to get shit done.
We are tired. The Just Right Words finally exist to explain why.
STIQS are not symptoms. They are data points.
- · Strengths. What we do most naturally and at the highest level.
- · Temperament. The comfort zone our nervous system needs to regulate.
- · Intellect. The cognitive profile that arrives before the question lands.
- · Quirks. The specific traits and idiosyncrasies that make us unique.
- · Story. The story of our lived experience up to this moment.
The lexicon is shared. The meaning is ours.
The same words used to define disabilities and disorders can be used to describe differences in unconventional high achievers.
The breakdown is in the processing of the data and not in the data points themselves.
Same words, different operating systems, different ways of seeing it.
Every week, one word. Six days. Six perspectives.
The Bird Brain Johari Window
Four ways of seeing. Four Birds. One Brain. One way of being.
Eagle
What Is visible and available to us both at this moment?
Parrot
What if you can see the view from my blind spot?
Owl
What I can see now that I cannot explain yet.
Hummingbird
What should we do next that will guide us?
Get to No University teaches Cognitively Complicated Couples how to see the lens of their own Johari Window without requiring us to translate first.
Critical Thinking for Neurosparklers.
Communication Literacy for Cognitively Complicated Couples
The Rabbit Hole Roadmap:
A webinar for couples who see “it” differently
Get to No University: The Foolproof Formula for Failing Fabulously
Stack your STIQS
The innate operating system that makes each partner exceptional is what causes friction in cognitively complicated relationships.
Stop trying to fix what isn’t broken.
Curate your Comfort Zone
What your partner sees that you cannot is the view from your blind spot. Instead of fighting over architecture, build a lifestyle that fits your shared Stack of STIQS.
Revolutionize the Status Quo
Traditional advice assumes one of us needs to change so we can live some future dream. Stop chasing. Start Living the Dream in the Meantime.
Say NO and Ask Why
Learn how to ask “Is that what you meant?” and accept No for an answer. Reclaim the canon of consent so the Chooser Gets to Choose.
Five doors. Walk through any of them.
Through the Hummingbird's Eye
A Neurosparkle Manifesto. An adult message disguised as a children's storybook.
Read the book →From the Archive
