Critical Thinking and Communication Literacy for Cognitively Complicated Couples.
The Grown Up Guide to Living the Dream. Free webinar. Optional 4-week cohort.
Free. 90 minutes. Build once, use often.
Every relationship book teaches you how to say yes better. Nobody teaches you how to say no.
Not the door-slamming no. Not the cold-shoulder no. The quiet no. The one that sounds like, "Hey, can you not do that?"
If you are cognitively complicated, you have spent a lifetime saying yes to things that drained you because the no would have cost more than the yes. You learned to translate yourself into a language that did not fit, for an audience that could not hear you, in a register that asked you to disappear.
Get to No University is the curriculum I built because nobody built it for me. It teaches the four moves: Stack your STIQS, Curate your Comfort Zone, Revolutionize the Status Quo, Say NO and Ask Why. It teaches the one diagram you need: the Bird Brain Johari Window. It teaches the four birds: Eagle, Parrot, Owl, Hummingbird. Known. Blind. Hidden. Unknown.
It does not pick a side between the Neurosparkler and the Nearlynormie. Both get fluent. Nobody gets fixed.
Reclaiming the canon of consent so the Chooser Gets to Choose.
Four birds. Four quadrants. Four weeks. One conversation.
The Bird Brain Johari Window is the syllabus. Each cohort week lives in one quadrant.
Eagle
Tackle the Topic
What Is visible and available to us both at this moment?
Parrot
Resolve the Referent
What If we could see the view from our blind spot?
Owl
Interrogate Your Inklings
What I can see now that I cannot explain yet.
Hummingbird
Practice Pragmatic Positivity
What should we do next that will guide us? Living the Dream in the Meantime.
Free webinar. 4-week cohort. Recorded course. Practitioner license.
Get to No University Live
90 minutes. Free. Build once, use often. Learn the Bird Brain Johari Window in one session and walk away with vocabulary you will use for the rest of your marriage.
Reserve My Seat →The 4-Week Get to No Cohort
One live session per week for four weeks. Eagle, Parrot, Owl, Hummingbird. Stack your STIQS, Curate your Comfort Zone, Revolutionize the Status Quo, Say NO and Ask Why. Homework. Optional private calls. Cohort price and dates announced after the first webinar runs.
Get on the cohort list →The Recorded Course
Available after the first live cohort runs. Self-paced. For couples and Care Givers who can't make the live timing but still want the curriculum.
Tell me when it opens →Bring This to Your Practice
For therapists, coaches, and counselors who work with cognitively complicated clients. License the Bird Brain Johari Window for use with your own clients. Available after the first cohort.
Apply for license →The Rabbit Hole Roadmap
Not going down a rabbit hole without a map.
Tackle the Topic
Name the thing on the table. What is visible and available to us both at this moment.
Resolve the Referent
Find out what each of you means by the same words. The view from your blind spot belongs to your partner.
Interrogate Your Inklings
Ask the inkling what it knows. The thing you can see now that you cannot explain yet is data, not noise.
Practice Pragmatic Positivity
Decide what you do next that will guide you. Living the Dream in the Meantime is not waiting for the dream. It is the dream.
This is the map. Every cohort, every course, every practitioner license teaches it.
If you are reading this, one of two things is true.
Either your brain arrives at the answer before the question lands and the people you love keep asking you to slow down, or you love someone whose brain does that and you have run out of ways to ask them to come back to you.
Both of you are exhausted. Both of you are right. Neither of you is broken.
I built Get to No University because every relationship book I ever read taught me how to say yes better. Nobody taught me how to say no in a way that did not blow up the room. I had to invent it. Then I had to live it. Then I had to teach it to my own marriage. Then it worked. Then I wrote it down so other Cognitively Complicated Couples and Co-founders and Care Givers would not have to invent it from scratch the way I did.
Come to the free webinar. Bring your partner. Bring your skepticism. Bring the no you have been swallowing. We will give it back to you with vocabulary attached.
Auntie Paige
Get to No University Live
90 minutes. Free. The Bird Brain Johari Window in one session.
Next live session: date posted as soon as it is set.
Bring your partner. Bring the no you have been swallowing.